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Tickle Time

Dear Ahia and Meimei,

Your a-em started a “meme” (hihi, it’s a blogging term) and I’m joining it… It’s called LOVING MAMA MOMENTs.  So for my 1st entry, I am writing you about our tickle time. It’s that 5-10 minutes a day that’s dedicated to tickling each other.  I tickle you and you get to tickle me as well… It’s so much fun!  There are even times that you’re the ones who initiate the tickling and tell me, “MAMA, TICKLE TIME!”  This is enough proof that you love it as much as I do 🙂

Usually, we tickle the neck, the “kili-kili” and ears.  You’re both very ticklish so as long as you’re already laughing, almost anywhere I touch you, you giggle, scream and burst in laughter.  No matter what the day brings, I always make sure we have our tickle time before we hug and kiss goodnight.  So here you are in one of our tickle times 🙂

Tickle Time Mei

Tickle Time EJ

Oh, by the way, sometimes, papa joins the tickle fun too ;-D

Love,

Mama

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Teachable Two

Dear Meimei,

Yippe! You’re officially in the “tiny tot” age! And what does that mean?  Some people describe it as a terrible two stage, and there’s even a website labeled terribletwos! But that’s not how I look at you sweety pie.  Even with your ahia, I can honestly say he was never terrible as what those websites declare.  It was even a big time for him to adjust because we moved to China when he was 23 months… yet in spite the new environment, your papa and I didn’t have problems with him.  Yes we did have difficult times, but hey, even us adults have those days we don’t feel good and we just want to be ourselves or even do “not so nice things”, but that doesn’t mean we’re TERRIBLE…  So when you become a mom someday, never label your kids terrible two ok?  It’s a matter of perspective and the more we believe in the best in our kids, the more we’ll be amazed at how wonderful they could really become at this stage.

According to Erik Erikson, this is the WILL stage wherein you learn to develop wither Autonomy – a sense of being able to handle many problems on your own, or Shame and Doubt if your caregiver, (of course it’s me and papa) refuse to let you perform tasks of which you are capable, or ridicule your early attempts at self-sufficiency.

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Your pa and I allow you certain limits but in areas where we know you can handle, we give you freedom to try to do it, no matter how many times you have to try, we patiently wait until you get it done right. 🙂

You are very teachable plangging.  The day we went home from your hospitalization on your 3rd surgery which was the colostomy closure, you immediately pooped in the toilet bowl! You were only 10 months and now at age 2, you are 85% toilet trained.  Considering that you’re an IMPERFORATE ANUS baby, this is a miracle because many articles say that kids like you can be expected to be “delayed” in toilet training. For the record, you sat on the toilet seat earlier than your ahia did! 🙂

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At 1 year and 3 months you already knew how to blow your nose!  I just showed you how it’s done then you did it on your own.  The older you get, the more teachable you become.  A few months back I started teaching you how to beat the egg and your ahia how to break it.  So now every time we cook and there’s egg, ahia breaks it and you beat it!

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Given a paint and a brush, you can paint on your own.  Given paper and pen, you can draw on your own.  Given toys, you can also play on your own.  However, there are still times (of course) that you say, “MAMA TEACH ME PLEASE.”  I know you just want to spend more time with me, or I guess, you like the tickle time which is usually part of our play time. 🙂  You also like to read and study. I can go on and on with the list, but I won’t.  You’ll discover them from time to time as I continue to write these letters my dear.

My prayer for you little one is that in the coming days, months and even years, you will be more and more hungry to learn new things, in every area of your life.  Every minute with you is a teaching moment.  I think the only time we stop learning is when we’re sleeping, haha.  But more than anything else, it is my heart’s desire that you and your ahia learn and hunger for God’s presence in your lives, that’s why worship and prayer in each day are never absent.  Every morning, we start the day with watching worship videos, we sing and dance as we worship, and we end the night with prayer.  You already know how to worship God and have memorized our bedtime prayer since you were 16 months. Right now you can declare healing upon family members who are sick and even declare healing upon yourself by saying: BY THE STRIPES OF JESUS I AM HEALED!

I will be forever grateful to God for giving you to us, you are a MIRACLE sweetheart.  Each time we see you, we are reminded of God’s faithfulness, provision, healing, love, joy and many more.  You are a living reminder to your papa and me that God’s goodness will follow us all the days of our lives.

Happy 2nd birthday Meimei… You are indeed, God’s promise of JOY.

I love you.

Mama

eating your birthday spaghetti

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Expensive Mistake

Dear Elisha,

I’m writing this letter using papa’s itouch, hihi. It’s finally mine! But I think he’s giving this to you on your birthday ( I think ).  But it depends if I’m letting it go. Hmmm… a few hugs and kisses might just convince me.  Oh, for your information, you got banned from using this since November 2010 due to a very expensive mistake that you committed.  Wanna know what & how much? Ok then read on.

You and papa have this game called Fishes.  In that game you need to buy more fish, corals, pearls & others.  However, those are expensive stuffs so papa didn’t buy any.  For example the pearls cost $99, some fish cost $9.99 and likewise for the corals.  Papa didn’t buy any of those because he thought it was expensive.  But guess what?! You did!!!  You purchased a total of $206!!! Of pearls, fish and other stuff to decorate your ocean!!! How did it happen?  What was papa’s reaction?  Go on reading son…

In the past, papa bought something from itunes and his credit card details were saved in it, however, to purchase something, you have to key in his password.  When we asked you what did you type for the password, you told us papa’s password!  You memorized it because one time, according to you, you saw him key in “the” password as you were beside him.  Talk about memory huh?!  Papa underestimated your capacity to remember but with what happened I’m sure he won’t do that ever again!  🙂
Now let’s go to his reaction…  Knowing your papa, he kept his cool, kept quiet, though he was angry.  He immediately logged in to our credit card billing statement online.  That’s where we learned the $206!!!  I then thought of a way to let you understand what you did by telling you that you had to pay papa using your money that you got from your allowance and rewards.  You had to understand facing the consequence of something you did and since it’s about money, you had to learn it through your money as well.  Oh how you cried when I told you that you had to pay all the money that you earned for 3 months!  You cried so hard and said, “If I don’t have money how can I buy a gift for you on your birthday?  Christmas gifts for you, papa and Meimei?  Birthday gift for angkong and ama?”  It broke my heart and I too almost cried when I heard those words from you.  You had a hard time accepting the consequence of what you did, good thing papa thought of an illustration of  how much money was used. He said, ” With “that” money you can buy 10 boxes of Tipo (that was your favorite biscuit that time), you could eat nearly 20 KFC bucket meals and eat 100 times in Jollibee!”  Funny you commented, ” 100 times in Jollibee?! That’s a lot!”  So we then knew you understood…

After a long time of discussion and explanation, plus a few bucket of tears, you finally agreed to pay off your debt to Citibank. Yes son, it’s your debt because it was your purchase so you had to pay for it using your money.  Although papa gave you some discount because your savings wasn’t enough to pay for everything.

The next day I asked your papa how exactly he felt, he told me he felt like he had a gout attack for 1 whole day!  It was painful but he recovered, haha.  As for you young man, you learned a very important lesson and I’m so proud of you for being man enough to face the consequences which were paying for your debt using your savings, not playing computer for 15 days, and banned from using itouch for a loooooong time! Up to this date you are still banned and though you keep telling me you miss papa’s itouch, you faithfully followed the deal of not touching it. So I guess you can touch the itouch on your birthday, let’s see about that 🙂

It happened 5 months ago yet you still remember what took place last November and I’m blogging this so you’ll remember for life and though it was an expensive mistake, we pray it will spare you from making much more expensive ones and more serious when you’re an adult. As I told your papa, ” We have been blessed with a smart son, so we have to be careful to teach him to use his gift properly”.  When you read this son, know that I am so proud of you that at a young age of 5, you took responsibility of your actions.

Love,

Mama

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18 Wonderful Months

Dear Meimei,

In my Facebook profile my status was: “ Thank you Lord for 18 wonderful and blessed months…” Yes my little one, you’re 18 months old today and the past months have truly been wonderful and full of God’s blessings. They weren’t perfect months but in every difficulty or mishaps, God has always shown HIS favor and HE has never left us.

Allow me to share with you what took place today:

Our day started as the usual weekend – woke up late because we slept late the other night. Had crab and shrimp for lunch (for the three of us) and yours were broccoli and pork 🙂 After lunch you asked for “Titi” (mama’s milk) and of course, fell asleep after that… Both of us did actually. Your papa and ahia however spent the whole afternoon cleaning the aquarium as your papa wanted to give you FISHY for your gift! But because you woke and I woke up late, we weren’t able to buy fish (but we’ll buy them tomorrow) but instead, we went to Walmart. For the first time you rode the Merry-Go-Round, the 4 of us went inside 😀 You got scared as you can see in your pictures but you didn’t cry, you just wanted to hug me while you’re riding. We had a tour in the park and it was just fun.

merry go round

After the fun we did our usual grocery weekend and here you are again on this infant friendly grocery cart… You look like a “DONA” enjoying the ride! The next best thing was… Papa bought you your BOOTS! ” Taray!” 18 months old wearing boots! How I wish I had them when I was your age! It looks great on you and even if the color didn’t match your outfit, you wore it perfectly! Look at you! I’m sure if your Angkong sees your picture he’ll say, “dalagang putut” (little lady)!

first boots

Oh, I thought you’d be interested to know what you’re capable of doing at this time so here’s a few of the significant ones:

1. Eat holding the bowl and drink in a cup with minimal supervision –  I just give you your food. You eat, I eat…

2. Three days ago you started going down the half-step stairs in our village by yourself – I was just right in front of you just  in case you fall you won’t get hurt. But you have shown me you can handle yourself 🙂

3. You are not so interested with singing the ABC’s… you would rather READ – yes my dear, at 17.5 months you started reading and by now, you already know when the words you’re familiar with are upside down.

4. You enjoy watching (just your top favourites):

(a)Praise Baby Collection – your favourite since you were 6 months… this video has been instrumental in our worship time together. You know that when I say “Worship God” you would raise your hands as an act of worship.

(b) Your Baby Can Read – when I say, “Meimei can…” you then say “READ”! you enjoy reading very much!

(c) Baby Signing Time – when I say, “Baby Signing…” you then say “TIME” and sign time 🙂 you like signing especially using the flash cards on your kit 🙂

(d) Jollibee – I let you watch for your Filipino lesson 🙂

(e) Glee – especially Poker Face and Say a Little Prayer (you and your papa watch that almost everynight)

(f) In the Jungle – HAPPY HIPPO, which is also one of your ahia’s favourites

(g) Pictures and Videos of people in Bacolod (especially your Ama and Angkong), babies and animals

5. You can get up and down the bed without any help, you’ve learned this since you were over 15 months

There are so much more I can write about you my “plangging”, but the part that I am most proud of is allowing you to grow being YOU. You have your way of expressing yourself – to show love, anger or delight. Your papa and I have given you freedom to choose, as long as that choice won’t hurt you. You may only be 18 months but we’ve always respected you as a person, a unique one at that.

May you live in the circle of God’s blessing… Completely sorrounded by HIS LOVE.

Happy 18 months baby…

drinking soup china style

 

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EJ’s Pre-School Life

Dear Elisha,

The first time we went to China was when you were 23 months and by the time you reached 2 years old, you were already in school. Kid Castle was your very first school which taught English to local Chinese kids. I put you there so that you can adjust to a Chinese school environment and yet when you go looking for “Mama” in English, your teachers can attend to you because they understand you. You were only there for the summer and when September 2007 came, Chinese school year opened and you were enrolled in our village’s kindergarten, Jindu Kindergarten. In both schools, you cried very hard each time I left you with your teachers for the first few weeks. I cried too son. It was heart breaking for me to leave you in your teacher’s care, however, it was something that needed to be done. Sometimes I would watch you from afar and pray to God to keep you safe… I’d ask your teachers how you did and they’d say, at the beginning, you didn’t mingle much with your classmates because you didn’t know their language so you always chatted with your teachers because they know a little English. But after a few months, you blended just fine and would even fight with the local kids- in full Chinese language. That made me see how fast you learned Chinese. It wasn’t perfect yet, according to your papa, but you already expressed yourself well. I even made you interpreter at times!

Jindu Kindergarten

February 2009 came and we had to go back to our hometown, Bacolod City, because I was about to give birth to your sister. You attended The School for Creative Beginners. They still accepted you even if it was almost the end of the school year because when they assessed your skills, you were advanced. I love that school. I taught there for a few months back in 2002 and I learned a lot about Multiple Intelligence so I made sure you enrolled there. You would ask your teachers questions like: “Why are you so fat?” haha! You didn’t know how to speak Ilonggo then so your questions sounded funny and cute because of your accent.

with SCB teachers

June 2009 came and we decided to enroll you in Trinity Christian School because your papa, along with the many LO’s, graduated in that school. They had Chinese classes but it was in Fookien and not the Chinese that you knew which was Mandarin. At age 4, you were supposed to be in the Nursery class, however, when you were assessed by teachers Greace and Edna, your level was already for the Kinder 1 level and they even told me that if not for the Filipino class, they can put you to join Kinder 2. Throughout the school year your Ama Mary was your ever faithful tutor for Chinese and your lovely mom for English (ehm!). You had several academic awards in both subjects for each quarter and up until the school ended in March 2010. You made us so proud EJ…

1st day of school

Now we’re back in China and you have several languages with you – English, Ilonggo, a little Fookien and trying hard Filipino and Bisaya. But at first I was bothered because you almost totally forgot your Chinese (Mandarin) and you refused to learn when somebody taught you. I didn’t push you to learn it though but what I did, I showed you the advantages of speaking the language. Almost every night before we sleep, we would talk about it. But the bottomline is, you want to be like your papa who can speak English, Chinese and Filipino. I think you understood pretty well so when your tutor, teacher Sunshine, taught you, you responded well. Actually now as I’m writing this, you have your tutorial class with her. I would use the PSP as a reward if you can recite your Chinese words well when your papa comes home.  That motivated you to memorize as much words as you can because the more you learn, the more time you have to play!

with Jindu classmates and teacher

But of all the schools you’ve been to, your favorite is homeschool with your fantastic teacher – your mom. Is that me? 😀 haha… Yes son, I am so happy to tell you that you always say your favorite class is your class with me. Now that you’re 5 years old, I continue to be your teacher… And I will always be your teacher as long as God permits me and as long as you allow me to do so.

I love you EJ and I’m very proud of you!

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HAPPY 5TH BIRTHDAY ELISHA JOEY

Dear Elisha,

For my birthday letter for you, I want to share with you how you came into this world… Ooops, not really the details of HOW you were made, but just a background of the things that took place before, during and after your birth. So read on ok? 🙂

It was in the year 2002 when in my prayer time a little voice whispered to me that my first born will be a boy and that his name shall be ELISHA JOEY. Elisha is a prophet in the Old Testament and his name also signifies double portion anointing. Joey is obviously from your papa’s name. So in short, your name means double portion of your papa, but of course, with a touch of me 🙂

When your pa and I got married in 2003, we decided to have a baby after we have taken some time to enjoy our being couple but also, before I reach 27 years old. We started our baby project September of 2004. Your papa was already 27 and I was about to turn 27 also in December so we were on the last trip. I remember very well I had a pregnancy test end of November and the result was NEGATIVE… I prayed so hard and reminded God I am expecting that on my 27th birthday, HIS birthday gift to me will be a POSITIVE result! December 10, 2004 came. I woke up 6am and immediately did my pregnancy test. I went out of the toilet running and almost wanted to shout because indeed it was POSITIVE!!! I woke your papa up and told him I was pregnant! Well, knowing how “palatulog” he is, he simply said: ” That’s already my birthday gift for you!” Of course he just wanted to annoy me by saying that… 🙂 Around 10am that same day I visited my OB and had another pregnancy test in her clinic and again it showed POSITIVE! yippee!!!

March 2005 I had an ultrasound in Bacolod because at that time, your papa was on his way to China and before leaving, he wanted to be sure of the gender of our child. And the result showed, of course, a boy. Your papa was very proud and happy because you are the very first male LO in your generation. He was so excited to share the news with your Ama, Angkong and Thima. By the way, one of the reasons we decided to have a baby already was your papa wanted so much to give them their grandchild so they can enjoy you while they’re still strong and able to run! 🙂

On your 8th month, I attempted to change your name to GIAN JOEY or GIAN ELISHA. As you know, all my brothers have GIAN in their names, as well as your cousins in the Boyero side. So I wanted you to be “in” and carry that GIAN too. However, God has other plans… One early morning I woke up and in my heart I felt like God was telling me NOT to change your name so I obeyed. That very same morning, your papa (who was already in China) told me that during his prayer time the same thing was impressed in his heart and that is NOT to change your name. It was then final, we shall name you ELISHA JOEY.

July 23, 2005 at 08:36pm you were born into this wonderful world. The moment my OB was done, I immediately asked for my phone and told your papa that you’re already out and we’re both safe. Thank You LORD! 🙂 During your birth your Auntie Isis went in the Delivery Room and took a video of me giving birth! So even if your papa wasn’t around, he was able to see how you came out! 🙂 Your Tita Lenlen also took a lot of pictures and videos in the nursery. I am so thankful they were there to document your first few hours of life outside my tummy.

July 23, 2005 at the nursery

I’m not sure if it was that night your Koko Gigi sent photos to your papa. The following day he called me up and asked me this exact question: “NGAA KATIGULANG SANG TSURA SANG ATUN BATA HAW?” I still smile everytime I remember that day because if you really take a look at your photos when you were newly born, you’ll know what I mean 🙂 It’s funny because at that time, I thought you were so cute! But after you’ve grown, whenever we watch your photos, we would laugh! hihihi…

You’ve really grown EJ… Your papa and I are so proud of you. We are confident that as long as we train you up in the instructions of the Lord, as long as we teach you how to love, honor and worship God, you’ll grow to be the ambassador that you were called to become. At a young age you have shown traits and potentials of becoming somebody great in your generation. Our heart’s desire is for you to be a testimony of God’s goodness in our lives and that you become a man who fears the Lord. Always remember that you are not an accident and you have a destiny to fulfill. No matter where the road leads you my son, be strong and take courage, do not fear nor be dismayed… For the Lord our God will guide you and His Word will light your way.

We love you son… Happy birthday handsome 🙂 (wink)

5th birthday with Jollibee

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY My ColorKiddo…

Dear Meimei,

A year ago, April 16, 2009 at 4:44pm I heard your very first cry… I welcomed you to this world by saying these words the very first time I saw you: KAY JOEY GYAPUN ILONG!!! (Still Joey’s Nose!!!)  🙂 When you’re old enough to read this, just ask me or your papa WHY those where my first words when I saw you for the very first time! (ahihihihi)

A few hours later your tita Doc Tett went inside my room and told me that you were healthy except for a small problem… that you had imperforate anus. A lot of my friends asked me what was my first reaction and probably you’ll also wonder when you grow up… I didn’t cry nor did I panic. All I asked was, “So what’s the solution?” Tita Doc then discussed words like you may need colostomy and many other things which were foreign to me but somehow, I knew it was serious. When tita Doc left, the very first thought that encouraged me was the meaning of your name: “Elizabeth Joy” – God’s promise of Joy. Deep in my heart I was assured that no matter what that birth defect meant, you will live a life filled with JOY because that’s who you are and that’s what you’re destined to be, someone who’s JOY will overflow. The 2nd thought that made my heart secure was Psalms 139 where it says that God formed you and He knows everything about you. To me that means God knew that you had that imperfection even before the doctors knew about it. Knowing that He is in control and believing He knows what He’s doing, my heart was in peace. The 3rd thing that God used to assure me that everything has been planned was the song SOMETIMES HE COMES IN THE CLOUDS. Indeed, sometimes our faith can only grow when we can’t see… so sometimes HE comes in the clouds.

a day old with tears in your eyes

April 18th came and your papa flew from China so we can pray for you before you went through with the colostomy. A pastor friend by the name of Ptr. Roger came and prayed with us. In his prayer he said, “Every good and perfect gift is from above so baby Elizabeth is good and is perfect for Joey and Maricar. She may not be perfect for others but she is perfect for this couple.” That prayer made me realize that YES, you are what we needed at this point of our lives because something in us needed to grow and mature as children of God… because He is molding us for His purpose.

papa praying before your surgery

Your papa told me that his heart broke seeing you in that condition, mine did too… Especially when I held you in my arms and saw multiple dots pierced by the needles because every 3 hrs the nurses had to check your sugar level. It was one of those times I wished I were the one in pain and not you. But through it all, through all those 3 operations, you bravely survive, never gave up and never lost your SMILE. You are very brave my darling…

Now it’s your 1st birthday already and look at you! Growing beautifully in the arms of people who love and care for you. Yes, a lot of people love you Meimei and I am grateful to each of them for helping me raise such a happy, contented and chubby princess 🙂 I can’t say that you are a toddler already because everything I see in you is still a baby, except when it comes to eating! Hihihi… But no need to hurry sweety, allow your papa to enjoy your babyhood. It’s fine if you stay there for a few more months 🙂 Papa would want more time to “popo” (carry) you. Just continue to sing your lovely songs because it brightens everyones day. Mama will give you more time to swim because that is your most favorite thing to do now. Seeing water makes you jump for joy and makes you want to dive in!

swimming at Palmas Del Mar

You see Meimei, God brought you into our lives for a bigger reason that just for us to have a daughter. You have changed our lives for the better. God will use us to comfort others the way HE has comforted us… The day you were born was the day colorkiddos was planted in my heart. And after a year, I’ve finally given birth! THIS is why God allowed us to have you my COLORKIDDO!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY PRINCESS LIZZIE… MEIMEI… MING-MING… Elizabeth Joy.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY COLORKIDDO! To God be the glory for the things HE has done and will do IN you and THROUGH you.

Love,

Mama
MEIMEI

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